What being a service sub means to me

Being useful doesn’t have to mean doing anything amazing. A lot of the time it is just doing normal things that save me time or make my life easier.

It could be driving, collecting something for me, delivering things, helping with errands, cleaning, admin, organising, carrying things or helping with one of my projects.

I like a service submissive who is proactive and thinks ahead. Don’t always wait for me to work out what you could do. Pay attention to what is happening in my life and think about what could actually help.

Actually being useful matters

Lots of people like to tell me they would make a great service sub. Then they are actually given tasks and expected to be useful and that is when they start to flake.

I am much more interested in what you actually do than how submissive you tell me you are.

If you agree to do something, I expect you to follow through. If something changes or you can’t do it, just tell me. Being reliable and communicating properly is a big part of service for me.

What are you good at?

Everyone has different skills. Tell me what yours are and how you think they could be useful to me.

Being able to drive is very useful. Picking me up, airport runs, collecting things or sometimes being my chauffeur around London can save me a lot of time.

Other skills I would find useful include video editing, photography, website editing, SEO, programming, mobile apps, business, organisation and project management.

Being able to travel is useful too. If you are flexible, have your passport ready and could sometimes travel to another country with us, let me know.

I prefer long-term service subs

I prefer long-term connections. I want to get to know someone and gradually understand what they are good at, what I can trust them with and where they fit into my life.

When possible I would like to meet regularly. That could be once a week when life is calm, every couple of weeks or once a month when things are busier.

I understand you have your own life as well. Work happens, holidays happen and sometimes people are busy.

I don’t need you to pretend you have more time than you do. Just be honest about your availability and let me know when you aren’t going to be around. Going quiet and then appearing again when it suits you isn’t the type of service sub I want.

You need to be submissive in nature

Being useful is important, but you still need to actually be submissive.

You need to be comfortable taking orders, completing tasks I give you and being accountable to me.

At the same time, you need to know your own limits and boundaries. I don’t want someone saying yes to everything and then realising afterwards that they can’t manage it.

You may sometimes help my partner too and I expect you to always be polite and respectful towards her. Your submission and accountability, however, are to me.

Financial service & tribute

Financial contribution is part of service submission with me and regular tribute is expected.

I don’t have a set amount that I expect everyone to give. When you contact me, tell me honestly about your financial situation and what you would comfortably be able to contribute on a regular basis.

If you have money, be generous. I believe in redistributing wealth. If you take me and my partner out, I would expect you to take care of us rather than asking to split the bill.

If you don’t have much money, that doesn’t automatically mean you can’t be useful to me. But I do like people who want to improve their situation, make more money, build a business or generally do better for themselves.

Be mindful

When I say I like mindful service subs, I mean someone who thinks ahead.

Notice things. Remember what I have going on. Think about whether there is something you could do that would save me time, reduce my workload or just make my day easier.

You can chat to me and be yourself. I am not looking for someone who never speaks. I just want the connection to include actual service rather than submission existing only in messages.

What I am not looking for

This is not a way of getting free kink from me.

If everything you offer somehow comes back to something sexual you want me to do with you, you probably aren’t offering service.

I don’t want someone whose idea of being useful is telling me I could pimp them out. I am also not interested in months of long emails from somebody who has no intention of actually meeting.

Don’t lie about your skills, money or availability to make yourself sound better. I would much rather know what you can realistically offer.

Kink & service

This isn’t a BDSM session request page.

You can still tell me your likes, dislikes and boundaries when you contact me. If we happen to enjoy some of the same things then of course I would like to know. It just shouldn’t be the whole reason you want to be my service sub.

Meeting me

If I like your application, we can arrange to meet somewhere public first.

We can have a proper conversation, see if we get along and talk about what having you in my life could actually look like.

I require a gift or tribute to confirm the first meeting. This shows me that you are serious and that you already understand that my time has value.

Apply to be my service sub

Most people have something useful they can offer. I don’t expect everyone to be a programmer, photographer or chauffeur.

Tell me about yourself honestly and we can see if there is some use for you in my life.

What to include

When you email me, answer these questions. You don’t need to write an essay. I would rather have honest answers.